May 11, 2020
It has been a part of the popular culture to think thay being in constant communication with someone through messaging platforms is the ideal.
We feel sad for those who do not have this option. We think they are lonely, sad and need help.
We do not see that this kind of ideal has made us to believe that having someone to chat with must mean happiness, content and joy.
We have set a standard that is not only misleading but also destructive.
Not being in constant communication is normal...and even healthier. First, we must know our purpose why we chat with that person? For catching up? To maintain the flame of friendship? To start a romance? To get to know? To introduce ourselves to someone novel? To feel excited to see someone get interested in us? To feed our egos that we are interesting?
And if we find the reason why, will the connection be worth it?
And if they do not reply with the same enthusiasm anymore, we feel down. When the replies get fewer and fewer, we feel have lost something. We might just be missing the notification on our phones but not the actual person.
The answer to this is to train yourself. Train yourself to be accepting of people's circumstances. Train yourself to be content to be alone with your own thoughts sometimes. There is nothing happier than being able to sit down by a window, to think away the wee hours of the day, away from your phone...and expectations.
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